Father of the Bride Wedding Guidance: Recent Comments

Comment on Wedding Day Etiquette for the Father of the Bride

2007-04-06T15:13:28Z

Daughter just go married and I want to be the best Father Of the Bride the world has seen. Not meaning the one to spend the most money however. I'm looking for all the help I can get. Checking your website I've seen some really good stuff. Looking forward to reading more.

Comment on More on Wedding Costs

2007-01-23T12:50:02Z

Sorry to hear your father isn't supporting your decision. Not knowing the circumstances, I don't understand his reasons. However, it's not often you have a daughter getting married (hopefully only once), and it would be a complete shame to miss the opportunity to share in her special day. Not everyone has to spend the amount that we did on our daughter's wedding to let her know that you support her. My best to you in your marriage.

Ken York

Comment on More on Wedding Costs

2007-01-23T12:44:03Z

This makes me so sad. Each time fiance brings up anything RE wedding, Dad interjects how he's not paying for anything (not that we were even asking, we know better than that). I'm a thrifty and resourceful person and spend/save very efficiently in every category of my life. It's very painful that he won't volunteer to provide even something sentimental, even if it's a small budget item. Not sure I want to invite him to walk me up the aisle since he's made his attitude so clear. We aren't selling tickets, of course, but it feels like by his ongoing statements that he's not investing anything, he doesn't support the relationship and is looking forward to getting rid of me.

Comment on The Wedding Has Happened

2006-11-25T12:20:11Z

Congrats, hombre! Bet it's a relief to be done with it...

Comment on Wedding Toast and Speech

2006-10-30T14:17:48Z

Don't forget to talk to the bride about your intentions to do a toast or not... Its actually not as common now days as it used to be, according to my wedding co-ordinator most often just the maid of honor and best man give toasts.

It honestly hadn't ocurred to me that my dad would want to give a toast. When he made his desire known I was of course thrilled, but because my wedding planner and I had my entire reception down on a timeline we had to rejigger the events of the reception a bit to make it work.

One other word of advice is to do the toasts towards the beginning of the reception around the dinner. Its a more 'mellow' part of the evening. The last wedding I went to they tried to interrupt the dancing to do a speach and people were having such a great time out on the dance floor that the DJ was reluctant to bring the energy down again.

Comment on Wedding Toast and Speech

2006-10-20T12:06:04Z

Gray on white may look chic, but it's hard to read.

Comment on Wedding Day Etiquette for the Father of the Bride

2006-10-02T07:04:53Z

Believe me, Susan is correct about the fact that you will sign a number of contracts to get your daughter's wedding going. If there are any questions, or just on general principles, have someone else review these contracts. Her suggestion is an excellent way to have the documents reviewed. Also, don't believe a vendors self-representation on the Internet, double-check their services, ask for references or samples. The wedding day itself is a terrible time to find out you've been had.

Ken

Comment on Wedding Day Etiquette for the Father of the Bride

2006-10-01T05:01:52Z

Your website and blog made me think, smile & chuckle a bit to myself. In many ways, you remind me of my father.
In response to your request for comments or tips for Father of the Bride, here's food for thought:

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Comment on An Interview with Ken York

2006-09-05T11:03:28Z

Thanks, next year I'll be going down to the Hemmingway festival to do an article for Cigar Magazine.

Ken

Comment on An Interview with Ken York

2006-09-05T10:40:19Z

Ken-
Liked the picture, I think you look like Hemmingway :)